Amy Morin is a
psychotherapist and the author of 13
Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Without even reading it, I suspect
I probably do at least twelve of the things mentally strong people don’t.
I did, however, read her
online article called “7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude that will Motivate You to Give Thanks Year-Round.”
In the article, she
lists things like how gratitude opens doors to more relationships, improves
physical, mental, and psychological health and strength, helps you sleep
better, improves self-esteem, enhances empathy, and reduces aggression. She
backs up all these claims with study results published in various research
papers and journals.
Most of us don’t have
any trouble believing the claims. It’s the practicing of it that proves
challenging. Her article suggests keeping a gratitude journal, where you take a
few minutes each night before bed to jot down three things you’re grateful for.
I used to do that, and I’m not sure why I quit. Probably because after awhile, my
entries all looked the same. After a year or two, it felt too much like
reciting a rhyming prayer that eventually becomes meaningless.
But if a grateful
attitude is truly that good for me—and for the world around me—I really do desire
to cultivate it. Here are a couple of ideas I’m trying to practice.
In the shower each
morning, I review the little things we take for granted every day like clean,
hot water readily available, a roof over my head, food to eat and clothes to
wear. Electricity. A vehicle to drive. Someone to repair said vehicle when it
refuses to work.
Then, on my
twelve-minute walk to work, I think of situations unique to my life for which I
can feel grateful. Relatively good health, the reality that I can walk to work
at all, the fact that I have a job at all…the gift of writing and opportunities
to use it. This is also a good time to look at the world around me and be
thankful for decent roads, the infrastructure beneath them, for crosswalks and
organized traffic rules and drivers who (mostly) obey them.
On the walk home
after work, I can focus on the people in my life. Family, obviously. But have I
been grateful for others today? My co-workers? The clerk who checks my
groceries or the guy who pumps my gas? The crew who picks up my garbage and
recycling? What about my pastor, who works hard to bring a meaningful message
week after week?
Gratitude may not
come naturally, but selfishness does. And since being grateful enriches my
life, I figure that makes it a self-centered practice. That should make it
easy, right?
Well, maybe not. But
anything can become habitual with repetition. So, let’s keep at it, shall we? The
Apostle Paul said, “He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will
supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your
righteousness. You will be enriched in every way to be generous in every way,
which through us will produce thanksgiving to God.”
And Zig Ziglar said, “Gratitude is the healthiest of
all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more
likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.”
Happy Thanksgiving!
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